How to Stop Using People as a Distraction from Your Own Life
Do you find yourself constantly worrying about other people? Are you always putting their needs before your own? If so, you may be using other people as an escape from your own reality.
It's easy to get caught up in the lives of others. We see their social media posts, hear about their problems or current issues and feel like we need to reach out and help. They may also constantly reach out to us for advice or help with their problems.
Although there is nothing wrong with lending a helping hand now and again, overextending yourself into other people's problems is an easy and covert way to avoid our own issues.
Instead of focusing on ourselves, we start to focus on other people. We try to fix their problems, make them happy, and make them feel loved. We may do this because we're afraid of dealing with our own problems. We may be afraid of facing what needs to be faced.
If you feel you may be using other people's issues as an escape, it's important to stop and review your own life to make sure you are facing your own reality first.
Here are a few tips:
Focus on yourself. What do you want out of life? What are your goals? What are your dreams? Start to focus on yourself and your own needs.
Set boundaries. It's okay to say no to people. You don't have to fix everyone's problems. Learn to set boundaries and take care of yourself first.
Get help. If you're struggling to deal with your own problems, don't be afraid to get help. Talk to a therapist or counselor. They can help you to understand your feelings and develop coping mechanisms.
It's okay to care about other people. But it's important to make sure that you're not using them as an escape from your own reality. If you're struggling to deal with your own problems, ignoring them by focusing on someone else's problems won't improve your own situation.
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